Tips for dating an army man
The surprises, emotional roller coaster and the waiting are worth it, and it's quite a ride. I send the sneakers he wants, razors, junk food from BJ's, supplements and more. A planner is definitely needed while dating a man in the military. Your military man will make you feel safe in his arms or just in general.
Dating a man in the military is even better than dating someone at home. Men in the military have great stamina, strong body muscles and sometimes tattoos all over their bodies. You feel protected when you're around him, and you know everything will be okay, on your good or worst days.
If I met an interested man who happened to be an active member of the military, that wouldn’t necessarily exclude him from consideration, but I would be hesitant to get involved on any sort of serious level. He served in the United States Navy for six years but had been out of the military for a significant amount of time before I sat next to him in on what would be our last first date.
I knew I wouldn’t have to deal with devastatingly long deployments at sea or constant relocation so his military service wasn’t a potential hinderance, but a celebrated past accomplishment.
He insists on occupying the spot that allows him to survey who is coming and going into the restaurant or bar or whatever establishment we might be visiting.
He refuses to have his back turned and is constantly on somewhat of a “look out”, even if he’s in the middle of a double bacon cheeseburger and a pint of delicious beer.
I’ve learned that when my partner grows quiet and reserved and spends time on the phone, shaking his head and sighing, it’s because another former shipmate has died – due to drugs or alcohol or suicide – all because our government and our society and the very people who like to publicly celebrate the military a few days out of the year, neglect them.
He listens to all the whining and complaints you have throughout the day. Having a girl who is down throughout the circumstances is a keeper. Technology nowadays makes it easier to communicate with others.He won’t completely relax until he is back at home with his family, so big adventures to extravagant social functions are few and far between.I’ve learned that while I am his best friend and the mother of his child and his forever partner, there is a closeness only he and his brothers in arms will share.Not seeing him for a long period of time, dealing with an inconsistent schedule and taking the relationship day-by-day can be exhausting. Flowers, letters, books and other thoughtful goodies remind me of him while he's gone. You keep the relationship going by creating new ideas to do together.
But that's what makes the relationship so spontaneous: never knowing what's going to happen. It goes both ways; he'll also be expecting care packages. Figuring out new adventures, travels, restaurants to dine at, museums to explore, hiking trails to go to, movies to watch on Netflix and which city to take a road trip to is what keeps the relationship flowing.Military members are broken down in boot camp and built up to not just be altered men and women, but trusted, forever soldiers.